tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post997209401793621412..comments2023-06-25T01:21:49.003-07:00Comments on Home: a soft place to fall: The Loss and Casualties of Trauma, the effect it has on the whole family.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-48931447543547781482011-10-31T18:02:32.822-07:002011-10-31T18:02:32.822-07:00Keep giving them words... what a beautiful way to ...Keep giving them words... what a beautiful way to show him that you know what he is feeling and are proud of him for putting up with a situation he has no control over and at the same time sending a clear and powerful message of what a family is to the other littles--family is sharing, love, respect, forgiveness, second chances (with limits), speaking and listening. <br />I don't have a rebellious child, but I have one I am loosing too... her health keeps getting worse and worse, in more and more pain... and there is less and less we can do about it. It really stinks to see a child in pain. <br />DianeDianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960718837817961644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-43077339714191543592011-10-18T10:22:46.486-07:002011-10-18T10:22:46.486-07:00I get it! There are days that I have felt like PB....I get it! There are days that I have felt like PB... asking myself why it was I prayed for this. :) But as I watch my oldest children preparing to leave home, I see the bonds they now have with their adopted siblings and the amazing young adults they are. I am reminded again and again, that they wouldn't be the same people without the struggles we have gone through as a family... learning to pull together, to stand up for one's self, etc. They are amazing, loving, caring adults because they have learned to sacrifice and give because they wanted to, because they cared about others, and because they saw the whole picture. <br /><br />We still have our struggles, as you well know... As we prepare to bring our oldest adopted son back into our home we have had some long family discussions about family dynamics and ground rules so that everyone in the home can feel that home is a haven. I am scared spitless about what is going to happen, but finally I feel the support of my son's siblings. They will be here to help fight for the home they want... and let me tell you... it is SO. REWARDING!!!!!! :) You remain in our prayers.<br />Love youCrystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09670077788873333690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-24707016848226465312011-10-13T09:33:09.793-07:002011-10-13T09:33:09.793-07:00You handled this beautifully!! I grieve for what ...You handled this beautifully!! I grieve for what my older kids have and still go thru with some of my more damaged children.<br /><br />I had to block my dd18 from my phone 3 wks ago. It broke my heart. I love her. I want the world for her. I want happiness and joy for her. I learned that no matter what I want for her and what I do for her, she has to do the "work" and she doesn't think she needs to. I don't believe she is long for this world either. I just keep thinking about what her influence has already put the younger kids thru and how much more they would hurt to see her the way she is now. She left our home 5 mos ago and really went off the deep end - married a guy 10 yrs older than her she met online (after knowing him less than a month), claims he abuses her but won't leave him, wants to have babies NOW with him, got tattoos, piercings, attempted suicide once that we know of, quit counseling and her meds, etc. Yet, she calls and tells me how right I was, how she wants to be part of the family, wants to go back to counseling and back on meds, can't make a decision and is worried about herself and the next thing I get is text after text of pics of her new tattoos, she's in FL now with him (we live in MI), etc. I can't watch her destroy herself. I keep thinking that if it were just me, I would cope with it and be by her side to the end - but I can't sacrifice any more time, energy and attention from my little ones when I know how well the last 16 yrs. of sacrifice has paid off.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-91448236101481459002011-10-12T21:38:37.375-07:002011-10-12T21:38:37.375-07:00<3 Still Praying <3
Mrs Kish<3 Still Praying <3 <br /><br />Mrs KishAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-24272733812952312882011-10-12T14:10:24.301-07:002011-10-12T14:10:24.301-07:00I wish your little P.B could help my little Sehler...I wish your little P.B could help my little Sehler to express herself like that and get some of her hate out that she feels/shows to Miss G. That was hard to read :(<br /><br />I'm gonna try your way with Chatter on Gert, so hard to teach proper affection and when its wanted, not ,too long, too much, creepy, etc.<br /><br />Think about you everyday xodeannahikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08849168821940844225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-21403263880352460522011-10-12T05:47:51.440-07:002011-10-12T05:47:51.440-07:00OOOOOOOOOOH I get this! The way adoption has affec...OOOOOOOOOOH I get this! The way adoption has affected the child-who- was- already- here is something I can barely think about because when I do it makes me want to vomit. I LOVE the way you handled it at the table, perfect.<br />I have a "hug manipulator" too, and I fall for it about half the time. You're doing great to recognize it.The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-38174553622410262852011-10-11T20:16:44.551-07:002011-10-11T20:16:44.551-07:00My heart breaks for us. For our families. For the ...My heart breaks for us. For our families. For the kids that are beyond our hearts' reach. For the ones who've had to watch the pain and feel helpless to stop it. <br /><br />I can't say any more here...but, yeah. I get you.Hannah_Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02456126190061240236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-32639360749507750562011-10-11T19:11:02.791-07:002011-10-11T19:11:02.791-07:00That is amazing! Absolutely amazing. Your little m...That is amazing! Absolutely amazing. Your little man is blessed for his sacrifice. He knows more about communication, how hurt affects people and how to get along with difficult people, and still love them, than almost every adult out there. He is learning all of the hard, important lessons now. I am amazed at him, and, as always, at you.Jodi Daviesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-836394109152759629.post-34687761600108656032011-10-11T16:47:38.118-07:002011-10-11T16:47:38.118-07:00I sobbed a great big ugly sob with you as I read t...I sobbed a great big ugly sob with you as I read this and wished I could run right up to your house and hug the stuffing out of you, put some band-aids on your shattered heart, and cry with you.<br /><br />I have often wondered and said the very same things about my daughter and what we did to her when we adopted the boys. <br /><br />May you somewhere, somehow find peace as you let go and let God. Love you buckets, sweet girl!Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08444891084585965661noreply@blogger.com